I've had the wrong priorities for so long. I've been reading a lot recently on positivity, and I stumbled on the utterly fantastic Mighty Girl, and one look at this site had me grinning. Her view of life is inspirational. The Mightly Life List is a work of art. And what if I were to finally figure out what I want for me?
I've spoken of this before; it was one of the reasons I uprooted my life and moved to Bristol. I thought that I needed to work out what I wanted - me - not my friends, not my family, not social expectations, but little ol' me.
So what the hell do I want?
I have a goals board (that currently needs updating again!). It's the product of my first stumbling into life-planning. On it are my 5 main areas of focus in my life, and a few specific goals with each one. Work, family, travel, money and my health. The over-riding things I want to aim for in life. Practical goals.
What this list here does though is pick up on all those wonderful life experiences that make our lives richer. Driven from the emotions I want to feel in my life. Individual items that I want to be able to say I've done when I'm old. I want to be able to look back on a life that was full and rich and satisfying.
Excitement, wonder, awe, peace, serenity, accomplishment and pride. Satisfaction at a job well done. Beauty, joy, happiness long lasting. Understanding and enlightenment. So, so much to fit in my life. Order, balance and harmony. Peace, again.
Those are what I want my life to be full of.
With today's massive blanket of social media, there's a new phenomenon of what some call "FOMO". AKA - Feelings Of Missing Out. I am very familiar with these. I am currently far too externally focused for my happiness - my closest friends tell me so, my councellor confirmed it (and thus confirmed the undoubted wisdom of my friends too!). I see what other people are up to and feel I should have it too. I forget, or choose to ignore, that what we see on Facebook, Twitter, or anything else, are the highlights of their life - the bits they want us to see. It doesn't matter - I immediately feel inadequate.
So ignoring that - here's what I want to achieve. Some easy, some not so much.
100 things to shoot for:
.... the list is still in progress, and will be added to, as and when I think of something else.
When I achieve something, I cross it off!